Not who you want to be SOMEDAY.
Question 1 of 11
When conflict happens at home, I usually:
Give in immediately to avoid tension.
Shut down and wait for it to blow over.
Address the issue directly but respectfully.
Question 2 of 11
When it comes to intimacy, I often:
Share my desires openly while honoring hers.
Don’t bring up my wants or desires.
Pretend my needs don’t exist.
Question 3 of 11
When making family decisions, I:
Default to whatever they want.
Share my perspective and work toward mutual agreement.
Stay silent to avoid arguments.
Question 4 of 11
In relationships, I most often tend to:
Always put their needs and desires ahead of my own. (let’s be honest, I don’t even think I have needs, nor do I think anyone cares about my needs…)
Balance my own needs and desires with theirs.
Prioritize my needs and desires while still considering theirs.
Question 5 of 11
My spouse often sees me as:
Engaged, passionate, and present.
Safe but unexciting.
Dependable but invisible.
Question 6 of 11
When I feel resentment, I usually:
Speak it directly with honesty and respect for the other person involved.
Keep it bottled up.
Let it leak out through sarcasm or passive aggression.
Question 7 of 11
My biggest fear in marriage is:
That if I show my truth, she’ll leave.
That any kind of conflict means we’re doomed.
That avoiding truth will kill intimacy.
Question 8 of 11
I often feel resentment when:
I communicate my needs and they are not acknowledged.
People don't appreciate my efforts or pay back my kindness.
I give “without expecting anything in return,” but honestly I’d like some form of appreciation in return.
Question 9 of 11
When separation or divorce is threatened, I:
Beg, plead, or take all the blame.
Deny it’s happening until it’s too late.
Accept reality and work to show up differently.
Question 10 of 11
My role as a husband has often been:
Fixer or problem-solver.
A partner who balances strength with vulnerability.
Passive provider who fades into the background.
Question 11 of 11
When I think about why my marriage struggles, I:
Blame myself for not being “good enough.”
Think I should’ve been even more accommodating.
Recognize that abandoning myself killed the attraction.