Not who you want to be SOMEDAY.
Question 1 of 11
When I think about asking someone out, I usually:
Imagine all the ways they might reject me, so I don’t even try.
Take a chance and approach them directly.
Wait around hoping they’ll notice me first.
Question 2 of 11
My weekends are often spent:
Being the “safe friend” for someone I secretly like.
Pursuing my hobbies and putting myself in new social spaces.
Staying home and avoiding risk of rejection.
Question 3 of 11
When someone flirts with me, I tend to:
Flirt back with humor and curiosity.
Pretend I didn’t notice so I don’t mess it up.
Overanalyze everything they say and do.
Question 4 of 11
When friends ask why I’m single, I usually:
Say “I’m just too nice; women don’t like that.”
Deflect with self-deprecating humor.
Say I’m focused on growth and intentional about who I choose.
Question 5 of 11
I often imagine relationships as:
A partnership where two whole people choose each other.
Something that will finally “fix me” or give me value.
Proof that I’m not broken if someone chooses me.
Question 6 of 11
When I see someone attractive, I:
Put them on a pedestal and become overly accommodating.
Communicate and establish clear boundaries and expectations from the beginning.
Find ways to spend a lot of time around them without letting them know I’m interested.
Question 7 of 11
My self-talk about dating is usually:
“Nice guys always finish last.”
“No one’s ever going to choose me.”
“I’ll attract the right partner by living fully.”
Question 8 of 11
I often feel resentment when:
People don't appreciate my efforts or pay back my kindness.
I give “without expecting anything in return,” but honestly I’d like some form of appreciation in return.
I communicate my needs and they are not acknowledged.
Question 9 of 11
When I feel lonely, I:
Own it and take action to create connection.
Hide it and distract myself with entertainment or vices.
Secretly hope someone rescues me.
Question 10 of 11
My self-worth, and how I feel about myself on a daily basis are heavily dependent upon:
Others' approval and validation, especially women, even if I don’t know them personally.
My personal achievements.
A strong sense of self and a supportive community that recognizes my worth.
Question 11 of 11
When I think about what I bring to a relationship, I:
“I bring strength, integrity, and my full self.”
“I’ll do whatever they want me to do.”
“I just hope being nice is enough.”