Not who you want to be SOMEDAY.
Question 1 of 12
Looking back on my past relationship, I often:
Tried to be perfect so they wouldn’t leave.
Know I should’ve shown up with honesty and backbone.
Did everything for them while ignoring myself.
Question 2 of 12
During the breakup/divorce, I:
Wait until my feelings have been bottled up for long enough to create an explosion. Then feel like shit for my behavior.
Took all the blame to try to keep them.
Tried to “win them back” by being nicer to them.
Question 3 of 12
Friends describe my role in the relationship as:
The guy who always gave in.
The guy who never spoke up.
The guy who showed up but held boundaries.
Question 4 of 12
After the breakup, my first instinct was to:
Chase them with gifts and apologies.
Pause, grieve, and grow.
Jump into another rebound to prove my worth.
Question 5 of 12
When thinking about my past relationship, I often think:
“I need to stop abandoning myself in love.”
“If I’d been nicer, they would’ve stayed.”
“If I’d fixed more of their problems, they’d love me.”
Question 6 of 12
My resentment towards my ex comes from:
Feeling unappreciated for everything I gave.
Believing they owed me for my sacrifices.
Recognizing I gave without honesty or boundaries.
Question 7 of 12
After my divorce/dumping, I:
Rebuilt myself and fully own my masculinity.
Try harder to be who I think women want.
Avoid dating altogether out of fear.
Question 8 of 12
My healing strategy has been:
Seeking growth, therapy, and community.
Distracting myself with work or vices.
Complaining endlessly about my ex.
Question 9 of 12
When I think about my future relationships:
"I’ll bring my whole self and demand respect."
"I just hope someone finally appreciates how nice I am."
"I’ll try harder to never upset anyone."
Question 10 of 12
When someone disagrees with me, or wants something different, I:
Give in and abandon myself to avoid conflict.
Engage in open and healthy communication to reach a compromise.
Respect their perspective but assert my own needs and boundaries as well.
Question 11 of 12
My self-worth and how I feel about myself on a day-to-day basis relies heavily on:
Others' approval and validation, especially women, even if I don’t know them personally.
A strong sense of self and a supportive community that recognizes my worth.
My personal achievements.
Question 12 of 12
In a relationship, I:
Take time for self-care, speak about my needs/wants/desires, and prioritize my own well-being.
Often feel like I’m getting walked all over.
Wish I could speak more about my sexual wants and needs, but don’t.