The numbers don’t lie. Most men are losing the fight.
40% of men who get married will end up divorced.
Heavy drinking is up 20% and porn use has nearly doubled since 2019.
1 in 3 men don’t know what they’re building toward.
Men who wake up knowing who they are, what they’re building, and who’s got their back. Men whose potential matches their reality.
My name is Traver Boehm and I’ve worked with thousands of men since publishing my book “Man UNcivilized”.
With over 15 years teaching and coaching men—I’ve seen enough to know that men are in pain. They want to become better men, but the civilized world teaches them to go it alone and struggle in silence.
That’s why I created The UNcivilized Nation. It’s not a support group. It’s not a mastermind. It’s a training ground — where men do the real work and support each other through it.
Joining The UNcivilized Nation gives you what the civilized world never will. Men who tell you the truth. And the tools to actually do something with yourself.
I’m not here to motivate you. I’m here to help you do the real, no bullshit, work — and give you brothers who hold you to it.
When you join the
You’ll get:
2x Monthly Live Calls With Me
One open group coaching session. One call on navigating the UNcivilized path.
Direct access to me — no layers, no fluff.
Monthly in-house challenges
Men are built for challenge.
Every month we use that drive to push limits, build bonds, and create real momentum in your life.
Private community platform
This is where the work continues between calls.
Ask hard questions. Get honest answers. No performance required.
A five-week Online Initiation
Twice a year, new members go through a structured five-week group course.
You’ll meet men from around the world, get clear on who you are as a man, and start applying the work from day one.
Your own small UNcivilized Team
A tight group of men led by one of my personally-trained team leaders.
These are your brothers. They’ll challenge you, back you up, and hold you to the standard you set for yourself.
Monthly Coaching Calls With My Team
My coaches cover every area men need to get right: mindset, money, sex, health, spirituality, family, and more.
Practical. Direct. Built for results.
Who are our members?
Over 250 men. All of them were exactly where you are right now.
Meet some of our men:
Nate Crawford
Father, UNcivilized Nation Group Leader and member, US Air Force Veteran, Astrodynamics Engineer
“The UNcivilized Nation has surpassed all of my expectations after joining. The amount of honest and sincere brotherhood I have experienced is exactly what I needed; the Nation is a safe place for men to do the work and grow together.”
Derek DiRisio
Hospitality Ambassador, Men’s Group Leader, Musician, Artist, Writer, Runner, Student to Life
“Joining the Nation amid the pandemic multiplicatively increased my support system. Knowing I have hands on my back has allowed me the privilege of building and rebuilding my life alongside others who care simply because we’re fellow men. There’s always someone to connect with meaningfully.”
Mark Sylvester, Elder
Sherpa, Husband, Father, Entrepreneur, Producer, TEDx Curator, Chef, Podcaster
“Being a part of the Nation has provided me with the opportunity to share deep conversations about what’s most important in life. The Elder Council is something I wish I had access to when I was 15.”
The civilized world isn’t coming to save you.
As men, society has taught us that we have two choices. We can either harden ourselves to become an emotionless Lone Wolf, or soften ourselves to become a gutless Nice Guy.
But the only thing I’ve seen come from these two options is pain:
- Divorce, because we don’t know how to lead our relationships with kindness and strength
- Heavy drinking and drug use
- Suicide, when we think it’s our only option
- Porn addiction, so we can feel good for two fucking seconds
What if there was another option?
One the civilized world isn’t interested in. One that works. One that honors who we are as men, and gives us space to grow into who we need to become as men. This is the path of the UNcivilized Man.
The UNcivilized Man...
Is Unapologetically Male. Dangerous but not a danger. Makes still his mind, makes savage his body. Knows his deepest gifts grow in the garden of his wounds. Practices presence and performance. Honors the men before him, the women who bore him, and the children who will inherit his Earth. Has equal and easy access to his head, heart, and balls. Lives by the rule — there are no rules — but there is responsibility. Loves fiercely, openly, and without reservation. Knows strength without love is tyranny. Knows love without strength is victimhood.
I know what you're thinking...
“It sounds great in theory, but is it really possible?”
Can you really...
- Show up as the man your relationships actually need
- Lead with strength without leaving your heart behind
- Get clear on what you’re here to build — and start building it
- Get your health, your money, and your mind all moving in the same direction
- Find men who will tell you the truth and have your back
- Become the man you actually came here to be
You absolutely can.
This is the training ground.
Everything you need to do the work is here. The tools, the curriculum, the men. You just have to show up.
Why the hell should you listen to me?
Because I’ve been there. Right where you are now. I lost a pregnancy, my marriage, and my business partnership all within weeks of each other. I’ve been in pain from living the way that society told me a man should live.
Then I said fuck it, and started a radical social experiment. I spent the next 12 months as if it were my last year to live.
Highlights of the year include:
- Volunteering with the dying as a hospice worker
- Spending 28 days in complete darkness in a Guatemalan hut — no light, no contact, no way out but through.
- Living in the frigid Utah wilderness with ONLY a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket for a WHOLE month
I learned to lean on other men to heal and grow faster than I ever could alone. That’s what The Nation is built on.
JOIN THE NATIONWhat our members have experienced:
Zach Thorp
Father, Husband, Son, Brother, 1+ Year into Men’s Work, Finance Manager, Recovering Nice Guy
“I joined The UNcivilized Nation a little over a year ago. I knew I needed community and desired to grow.
I was scared of joining because I couldn’t fathom other men supporting me, not judging me, and saying they’ll have my back. But they have, I’ve been able to show up being authentic, and been met where I am, and supported.
The Nation has helped me stop feeling like I’m at the effect of circumstances, and instead tap into my ability to express boundaries, convey my needs, and be OK when everything says I shouldn’t be. I wouldn’t be on the path I am now without joining The Nation, taking the Kill the Nice Guy course, and leaning on my brothers in there.”
Joel Love
Father, Firefighter, Martial Artist, Recovering Nice Guy
“For most of my life I have struggled with anger and frustration, feeling stifled and lost. I have had great internal conflict, feeling this anger, a lot of it at myself, but feeling guilty for feeling it.
Being part of The UNcivilized Nation has helped me by surrounding me with like-minded men, also on the path of better understanding themselves so as to better serve those around them.
These men have helped me understand that prioritizing my desire to be liked is destructive for me and those around me. I’ve got a lot more work to do, but I have the support of some good men to do it. ”
Kit Bargmann
Former Firefighter/EMT, Personal Trainer, CrossFit Coach, Mortgage Loan Originator, Nerd Disguised as a Meathead and Recovering Nice Guy
“This movement has brought the necessary changes my soul has been seeking.
It gave me the ability to look at my life and see exactly where I abandoned myself and taught me how to not only forgive myself but also how to begin healing those parts I didn’t want to look at, let alone let anyone else see in me.
It grabbed me by the heart (albeit sometimes even by my balls) and dragged the BEST of my masculine energy out of me, showed it to me and embedded deep in my chest. I “knew” I was before, and I’m proud to say I know who I am healing to be. Proud FOR (not of) every man that takes this journey to make the world a better place.”
What is the UNcivilized Nation
Online Initiation?
This Online Initiation is a five-week guided group course with weekly meetings and homework assignments to help you integrate into the community and reap the benefits of your membership.
The Online Initiation is run twice yearly but you can join today.
We will cover:
Week
1
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Meet Your Brotherhood
You’ll meet your team, understand how the Nation works, and get clear on what this path is actually going to ask of you. This is not just an orientation. It’s the beginning of your path to power.
Week
2
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Know who you are as a man
We get specific about where you are right now — in your relationships, your work, your health, and your sense of purpose. No fluff. Just an honest look at the man in the mirror and where he’s headed.
Week
3
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Face what’s been holding you back
Every man walking through this door has something in his way. This week you name it, own it, and take your first step through it — with your brothers beside you.
Week
4
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Learn how to use this place
Our program only works if you know how to use it. This week you learn how to get the most out of the calls, the challenges, and the men around you so you actually get results.
Week
5
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Commit to the long game
Becoming UNcivilized isn’t a five-week program. Neither is committed brotherhood. This week you figure out how to make this a permanent part of your life — and what kind of man you’re committed to becoming inside the Nation.
The Nation doesn't just live online.
We have 30+ in-person men’s groups across the globe — and we’re just getting started.
Join Your Brothers.
The
Membership
$47
per month
The
Program
$1997
One-time investment
2-year program
FAQ’s:
Do I Have To Join For Any Length Of Time?
Not unless you specifically sign up for The Program or The VIP — our two year track. Standard membership can be canceled at any time.
Is there any religious affiliation to this group?
Negative. I don’t care who you pray to or don’t. I just want you to be a good man who’s interested in doing the work.
Is there an age requirement to join?
We have men in their early 20’s all the way up to men in their 70’s. If you’re under 18, I’ll just have to hop on the phone and make sure this is the right group for you.
Are gay men welcome to join The Nation?
Absolutely. Like my religious views, I don’t care who you fall in love with as long as they’re a consenting adult. We have a number of gay men in The Nation who are kicking ass at life and will be the first to tell you the least interesting thing about their lives is their sexual orientation. I agree. UNcivilized men come in all shapes, sizes, and manners of being. We just want good men and The Nation has them.
Are there in-person meetings? Or is this only an online team?
Both. We have 30+ live groups all over the world at the moment and are growing fast! We’re also starting to host workshops specifically for men who are interested in running their own city's/town’s UNcivilized Men’s Team.
Is there anything weird or culty about The Nation?
Absolutely… We have great t-shirts that you get a discount on for joining. I hope you wear them to the gym. Rumor has it that’s how cults start, but to be honest, that’s as far as I’ve gotten. All the cult leaders I know have long flowing hair, so Dave and I are kind of excluded from that camp.
I will have you doing some push ups and taking cold showers for a few weeks during your orientation period, and you’ll find that men you don’t even know are willing to reach out and help you with your struggles and support you in both good and challenging times. That may feel weird at first, but that’s as weird as it gets.
TESTIMONIALS FROM OUR MEMBERS
In the Nation, I found, for the first time in my life, a place where I can show up authentically without fear of judgement or criticism. A place where I share openly about my struggles and victories, where I receive genuine support from men who are on the same path.
—D.C., Bend, OR
The Nation has provided me with an open door. An open door to be myself. An open door to express my masculinity. An open door to ask the questions I didn't feel safe asking anywhere else. The Nation has opened up the door for more possibilities in my life than I ever thought possible.
—E.D., Des Moines, IA
The Nation is a place of freedom. A place to be what I need to be. A Man alongside Men. It is a gathering of real men, men who have the balls to step outside the conventional world and live UNcivilized.
—M.H., Lethbridge, AUS
I’m thankful for an open, no judgment space to share my struggles and wins. Show up and do the work, the wins will come, but you have to be here.
—Z.M., Mansfield, OH
This group has been a huge blessing for me! Just listening to the stories that everyone is going through helps me feel like I'm not alone. Being able to express how I feel and knowing that I'm going to receive quality feedback and support is a great feeling to have.
—N.O., Wheat Ridge, CO
The Nation checks my bullshit, challenges me to make the most of the present, forces me to question the easy path, sits with me when I’m right down in the dirt, celebrates with me when I’m not. It’s a global band of brothers I’m privileged to belong to.
—C.C., London, U.K.
I've always had to be a one-man army before, fighting the battles of life alone. This group gives me like-minded men who will support and defend that fight, so we all achieve victory.
—G.B., Philadelphia, PA
This nation has allowed me to gain a community of like-minded men, who have zero interests in anything other than helping each other heal!
—T.J., Compton, CA
I have a global tribe of men who I can trust and know that they got my back just like I got theirs. A band of brothers on whom I can lean on, learn from and share with.
—H.K., The Hague, NL
One of the best decisions that I've made in 40 years of life. If you are seeking brotherhood, knowledge, expansion, peace, awareness, heart, leadership, and so much more, seek no more. This IS it!
—R.W., Denver, CO
*These results are not guaranteed, and are different for every person.