An Online Series:
Helping you understand the depths of yourself as a man, and understand the men in your life.
Open to men and women.
Men have a grievous amount of damaging core experiences that remain forgotten, hidden, minimized, or avoided.
In other words —
MOST MEN ARE SUFFERING AND HAVE NO IDEA WHY.
They may also have overt and blatant issues that nonetheless remain unresolved and unaddressed.
We aim to specifically change this.
Behind the Masks of Men is a series of online intensives where you will get to dive into the most vital and often untalked about topics that shape your life.
These are the areas severely diminishing the quality of your life, or flat out undermining it altogether.
With expert guidance from teachers Traver Boehm, Michael Gay, and Duey Freeman, we will explore the places and ways men get stuck that cause you to lose energy, vitality, and connection.
It’s time to return the keys to your locked vitality back to you.
It’s time to take an honest look at the places where honesty is hard.
It’s those hard-to-look-at truths where attention is most needed.
It’s time to take off the mask, and do it in good company.
We’re going to get you unstuck. Period.
Each intensive contains 8 hours of live class time with Traver, Duey, and Michael.
We’re going to break each one into two 2-hour classes on weekdays and one immersive four-hour weekend class where we really get to dig in deep. There’s a community relational expressive piece, and there will be homework that you can do to deepen the impact of your learning.
We’ll provide you with readings, exercises, journal prompts, reflection points, and takeaways to break it down so you have something to refer back to to continue to integrate all this work.
This isn’t a stream of pre-recorded videos. This is men diving in and doing the work together in real time.
This is not purely a thought exercise. This isn’t just mental learning.
This is meant to move something inside you so that you can access parts of yourself you didn’t even realize were struggling.
Your Teachers
Traver Boehm
Duey Freeman, MA LPC
Michael Gay
Our first intensive will be on
Anger.
Your capacity to skillfully feel and express anger might be one of the most important things you learn to do. It is essential in building a life of trust, honest connections, and personal as well as relational health.
Most men do it badly or avoid it altogether, both of which are severely damaging to you and your relationships. Perhaps no other emotion is so poorly modeled for us or has the largest masculine shadow.
Mature anger is essential for your health, the health of your relationships, and the world.
The
Anger 101
Intensive
Anger — we encourage it.
Who this is for: This intensive is for you men only, and not just the ones who rage in traffic. This one is for all of you to identify how your anger manifests in your own life (it’s different for everyone) and how you can use it as fuel, not shame.
In this intensive, you will:
- Learn to skillfully access, experience, and express your anger.
- Learn to distinguish between genuine anger and drama (and what to do with the drama).
- Learn ways anger can bring you closer in your important relationships.
- Learn how to be on the receiving end of assertive anger and redirect it when it’s dramatic anger.
After this intensive: you’ll understand assertive anger and what to do with any anger that isn’t assertive. You’ll know how to use anger at work, your relationships, and even as a parent. You will be equipped to hold and handle anger that’s brewing in you and coming at you.
Coming soon!
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Our second intensive will be on
Relationship & Attachment.
This Intensive will have a deep dive into Attachment. Attachment in this sense refers to our ability to form and maintain healthy close bonds with other humans and the living world around us.
Understanding the ways we attach may be one of the most valuable pieces of self-awareness we can have. Understanding attachment will be one of the most important Intensives we teach, strongly establishing foundational principles that inform every other Behind the Masks module.
This intensive will include insights by Duey Freeman, who in his 40+ years as a therapist and several decades as a university professor, created his own model of human development, strongly informed by his unique understanding of attachment.
The
Relationship & Attachment Mastery
Intensive
Who this is for: This one’s for men and women (single or partnered). You’re not going to master your entire relationship in one intensive, but you are going to learn why your attachment style affects every relationship you are or have ever been in. And once you know why, you’ll be able to quickly and easily pivot when things aren’t smooth sailing.
In this intensive, you will:
- Learn how attachment is at the root of most addiction.
- Learn how to work with attachment wounds (and what they are).
- Learn the link between trauma recovery and attachment.
- Learn the importance of somatic work and the body in attachment work.
- Learn about relationship patterns that come from attachment wounds and how to work with them.
After this intensive: you’ll understand more about why you are the way you are. You’ll begin to see how your past shapes your present relationships, and how to interrupt the patterns. Maybe most importantly, you’ll be able to use this information in real time to improve your relationship with the people you interact with most.
Coming soon!
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Our third intensive will be on
Sex and Desire.
There are plenty of great courses on how to be a better lover, but there’s still so much men don’t talk about in the realm of sex and desire. This is the place for those parts.
Fear, shame, pain, judgment, wounds, naiveté, obsession, abuse, avoidance, secrecy, unexpressed passion, numbness, heaviness, longing, loneliness, a divided self, inability to be in your heart, inability to be in your body.
It’s time to be real with yourself so you can become more real.
In this final Intensive we will talk about all the ways your sexual blocks and shame are keeping you from being fully expressed in EVERY AREA of your life and how you can remove them.
This is the set of conversations every man needs to have whether he’s currently sexually active or otherwise.
The
Sex & Desire
Intensive
Who this is for: This one’s just for the men, and it’s a doozy. You’re going to learn about all the parts of “Being the World’s Best Lover” courses WON’T talk about. We’re covering fear, shame, pain, loneliness, longing, passion, and how to be a fully expressed man (in the bedroom and out). Your partner or future partners will thank you.
You will:
- Learn where you have separated sex from desire.
- Learn where your sexual energy flows, and where it doesn’t.
- Learn to integrate the unintegrated to feel more passion than ever.
- Learn to reclaim the vital parts of you that are frozen in the past.
After this intensive: you will feel the power of using your own sex and desire as a tool for connection, not shame. You’ll shine a light on the parts of you that might have been buried and begin to finally get how powerful your sexuality is when used the right way.
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The Behind The Masks Series is a one-of-a-kind experience. Join us for all three modules and take the largest step of your life in the direction of your power, individuation, and personal freedom.
Here’s to ending the suffering in men and the suffering caused by men.
Here’s to all of you men willing to embark on this journey with us.
See you in the Spring,
Traver, Micheal, & Duey
Coming soon!
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FAQs
Is this going to be a therapy group?
Why are some of the courses for men only?
Will I be required to share about things I don’t want anyone to know?
What if I need to miss a class?
Will I have access to recordings after class is over?
Will all three of you be on each live class?
Will you consider scholarships?
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