The UNcivilized Podcast

| Apr 30, 2020

Why You Need To Know Your Shadow With Connor Beaton

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Are you facing battles with the Shadow? Have you found that you tend to self-sabotage the things and relationships in your life? If so, you'll want to hear this episode because I brought on a great friend of mine, Connor Beaton. Connor is a coach, teacher and speaker that helps men (and women) walk through their darkness. He talks about the Shadow and what that means to him. Connor talks about managing conflict in your relationships. He also shares why you should consider challenging social agreements that you don't align with.

About Connor Beaton

After apprenticing with a pupil of Carl Jung, he developed an innovative approach to healing the Shadow – the part of our psyche that causes us to self-sabotage – by drawing from experiential and training-based methodologies like Jungian psychology, somatic therapy, along with transformative breathwork and meditative practices.

He's now been working for almost a decade as a NY-based coach, teacher, and speaker to help men (and women) from all over the world walk through their darkness and grow in the realms of mental clarity, relational communication, actualizing their potential and sexual intimacy.

He has a no-BS attitude coupled with a compassionate understanding of our own human limitations. He's coached hundreds of men (and women) through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats and masterminds.

In 2014, he founded ManTalks, a community for men looking to expand and deepen their sense of self-awareness.

Connect with Connor

Man Talks:
Instagram: @mantalks

What You’ll Hear

4:30 What Connor is building right now
5:32 What he’s most hopeful and scared about from the pandemic
8:36 The Shadows that come from our government
9:53 What the Shadow means to Connor
12:28 How growing up in a house with verbal and physical abuse affected his inner critic
14:04 Facing your inner demons to overcome the shadow
17:59 Why Connor made the decision to quit drinking
22:04 Why you need to challenge social agreements that don’t align with your values
23:53 What Connor does to guide people toward their purpose
28:48 Traver’s advice for finding your purpose
31:38 The invisible step theory
32:40 How to remain in the explorative, vulnerable state of a relationship when eager for love
36:04 What it means to sit with your insecurities
38:48 Getting to know what makes your partner feel the most loved
41:37 How Connor and his wife argue
44:03 How to keep conflicts with partners respectful and safe
48:03 The biggest resource that Connor could use right now


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