“When it comes to connection, emotional expression, and being fully present in a world that taught us to hide our hearts, many don’t realize they’re sick until they get the medicine they need. Traver Boehm’s work is part of that medicine. He provides practical, tactical tools for immediate implementation to make life better, and he does it in a relatable and engaging way. ”

– Dr. Jeremy Goldberg
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In 2016, Traver Boehm voluntarily spent 28 straight days in a pitch-black room, utterly alone, embarking on an inward journey that forever altered his perception of self and the world around him.

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Join Traver Boehm as he embarks on a profound 28-day initiation into darkness.

Through his lens, you will learn how to embrace darkness, break free from suffering, find hope, and reclaim your life.

In 2016, Traver Boehm voluntarily spent 28 straight days in a pitch-black room, utterly alone, embarking on an inward journey that forever altered his perception of darkness. For four weeks, he couldn’t see his hand an inch from his face—voluntarily.

In 28 Days in Darkness, he recounts this harrowing experience, delving deep into his inner darkness and suffering and then emerging back into the world with profound insights.

In our culture, we tend to shy away from darkness, pain, and challenge, collectively seeking only love and light.

We medicate our discomfort, hide behind our curated social media personas, and avoid confronting the parts of ourselves we’ve deemed tainted and unworthy. Yet we live in deeply troubled times that demand an evolved and holistic authenticity, and that includes our personal and collective darkness. This book provides a pathway to seek that fully realized authenticity.

28 Days in Darkness doesn’t just recount Boehm’s heartbreak and pain; it offers a road map for you to embrace your own devastation, accept the parts of yourself that you pretend do not exist, and find the truths that will finally set you free.

Each chapter will leave you with concrete steps you can take immediately to navigate your heartache, anger, grief, and so much more.

Brutal, beautiful, and profoundly honest.
– Mark S.

28 Days in Darkness came to me during a difficult divorce, and it was exactly what I needed. Boehm's journey is extreme, but the lessons are surprisingly practical for everyday struggles. His writing style makes you feel like you're talking to a wise friend who's been through hell and back. Deeply grateful for this book.
– Jennifer L.

This isn't just a story about sitting in the dark - Boehm brilliantly connects his extreme experience to everyday struggles we all face. The wisdom from his 28 days offers practical help for anyone going through tough times. I read this during a rough patch in my marriage and his advice about facing discomfort instead of avoiding it really changed things for us.
– Nathan C.

There's something profoundly moving about witnessing someone voluntarily step into their darkest fears. Boehm's writing strikes that rare balance between vulnerability and wisdom, offering insights that feel earned rather than borrowed. The practical exercises in his workbook helped me process grief I didn't realize I was still carrying from my father's passing.
– Amelia S.

Boehm doesn't preach or pretend to have all the answers. Instead, he shares his radical experiment and what he learned from it in a way that's relatable even if you're not planning to sit in a dark room for a month! Excellent read for anyone feeling stuck.
– Robert K.

Rarely does a book pull you so fully into an experience that you forget you’re reading. 28 Days in Darkness is that book.
– Bill M.

After years of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity, this book was the grounding force I needed. Boehm doesn't romanticize darkness nor does he wallow in it—instead, he maps it with remarkable precision. His journey through physical darkness becomes a powerful metaphor for navigating life's inevitable challenges.
– Thomas W.

This book gave me permission to acknowledge my pain rather than run from it.
– Lisa M.

About the author

Traver Boehm is on a mission to end the suffering in men — and to end the suffering caused by men. A fierce advocate for human connection, he is dedicated to understanding the unique challenges people face in the modern world and helping them step into their fullest potential.

As the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, one of the fastest-­ growing men’s movements in the world, Traver is redefining what it means to live with strength, authenticity, and purpose. His work resonates deeply with anyone seeking to break free from societal conditioning and embrace a life of depth and meaning.

Traver is the author of Today I Rise and Man UNcivilized, a two-time TEDx speaker, an international coach, and the host of the top-ranked UNcivilized Podcast. With a background spanning professional bodyguarding, MMA, and Traditional Chinese Medicine, he combines physicality, mindfulness, and raw truth to guide men — and the people who love them — toward a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationships.

Through one-on-one coaching, couples’ mentoring, and group programs, Traver has helped thousands of people across the globe awaken to their power, connect with their hearts, and reclaim their souls. Whether working with men, women, or couples, his message is universal: Have a clear mind, a wild heart, and a feral soul.

When not chewing on his nail in front of a computer obsessing over word choice, Traver can be found searching the planet for perfect shoulder-high surf, gracing his meditation mat, and hiking the Colorado mountains with his exceptional pup, Sage.

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