A six-week course to get you from Nice Guy to UNcivilized Man.
IF YOU ARE A NICE GUY,
YOU ARE LIVING SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE — AND THAT MAKES YOU A WOLF IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING.
The opposite of a Nice Guy is not a dick — it’s a Good Man, a Strong Man, a WHOLE MAN.
“Kill The Nice Guy” is a radical six-part Self-Leadership Course for men like you who are ready to:
FIND YOUR BALLS. OWN YOUR POWER. LIVE EVERY DAY UNAPOLOGETICALLY.
Testimonials
Here’s what my clients told me about taking this course:
Before taking the Kill The Nice Guy course I was about to be divorced. Everything I thought I was doing to be nice was actually a covert contract that was pushing the loved ones away in my life.
Now I have healthy ways to communicate my needs and the funny part is I am actually giving the people in my life what they really need and getting my needs met at the same time.
—Chad Vazquez
The Kill The Nice Guy course opened my eyes to unconscious conditioning which was actively screwing with my life, relationships, and sovereignty.
I’m better off for realizing and amending how I’ve unhealthily sacrificed myself to the detriment of myself and the world. You’re in good hands in this space.
—Derek DiRisio
The Kill The Nice Guy program punched me in the gut over and over with very clear and uncomfortable realizations about myself and my behavior that I simply had no idea about. Who knew I had covert contracts with so many people, and how dysfunctional that concept is.
This program really drove things home in a powerful way.
—Goldstone Andrew
I was going to see a psychiatrist twice and month, and all it seems I was doing was getting some affirmation with little practical help from my therapist. I’ve gotten more out of this six week course that I did in months of therapy. This is self-work for men...that works.
—Reggy Hebert
Testimonials
Here’s what my clients told me about learning to lead
Thank god I killed my Nice Guy. Three marriages later and I know that happy wife, happy life is lie. Now MY life is happy and what do you know, so is my wife’s.
–Mark C.
I had no idea how much power I had until I stopped giving it away, thank you Traver for helping me kill my nice guy.
–Scott H.
I wish I’d taken this course in my 20’s, I’d be seeing my kids more than every other weekend.
–Jonathan R.
Why aren’t we taught this?! Trying to “nice” my way through life was a disaster. Thank you for helping me find my balls and starting being a kind man rather than a pathetic nice guy.
–Anthony S.
All the lying stopped. All the manipulation stopped. All the waiting for someone to tell me they liked me became irrelevant after working with Traver on my nice guy. Now I don’t need anyone else to tell me I’m a good man, I’m actually a good man!
–Ethan L.
Fuck the Nice Guy, this work is profound. Every area of my life changed when I owned who I wanted to be in the world, even if that upset people.
–Eli H.
I know what you're thinking...
“It sounds great in theory, but is it really possible?”
Can you really...
- Stop apologizing for being a man
- Start to put yourself first — for once
- Stop running around taking care of everyone else and having nothing left for you
- Stop letting your fear of rejection and conflict make weak ass decisions for you
- Stop pretending you don’t have needs and start OWNING them
- Stop seeking external validation from EVERYONE, especially women
- Outgrow the need to be seen as a “good little boy” and start living as a man
- Integrate your shadow to make more money and have mind-blowing sex
- Build real world confidence and self-esteem
- LEAD in every area of your life
- Create a strong plan for yourself and your family immediately
- Do all of this in six weeks?
You’re damn right you can.
OVER SIX HARD-HITTING WEEKS, YOU WILL BE PUSHED TO EXPAND, LAUGH, AND YES, CRY AS YOU UNPACK YOUR WOUNDS AND DEVELOP YOUR STRENGTHS.
This is the exact course I teach as a live six week coaching experience, now available for you to take at your own pace. Every week I’ll guiding you fully into the exploration of who you are and how you can immediately shift your Nice Guy patterning.
Most importantly, you can now do this on your own timeline.
Just know, this course is not for the uncommitted or the faint of heart.
No one is going to come along and hand you your confidence and self-esteem.
Until you can source your own power, feel safe in a room full of men, and own that you actually have desires — people, especially women, won’t feel safe around you. You’re also in danger of losing everything you’ve worked so hard for because you don’t have your own back. And until you have your own back, you can’t truly have anybody else’s. And on some level — they’ll know it.
STOP LIVING FOR EXTERNAL VALIDATION AND START LIVING A LIFE OF AUTHENTICITY.
I’LL SAY IT AGAIN:
IF YOU ARE A NICE GUY — YOU ARE LIVING SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE.
STOP LIVING FOR EXTERNAL VALIDATION AND START LIVING A LIFE OF AUTHENTICITY.
WILL COVER:
Week
1
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Authenticity
vs
Attachment
Understanding how and why you became a Nice Guy and the path to outgrowing him.
Week
2
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Rejection
Abandonment & Death
What you really fear as a Nice Guy and how to stop avoiding those fears and work with them.
Week
3
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Covert
Contracts
How to start owning your needs and desires and get them met consciously.
Week
4
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Your Heart & Balls
How to find them, own them, and protect them both.
Week
5
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Sourcing Your Own Power
How to be dangerous without being a danger.
Week
6
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Turning The Lights On
Taking your sex life out of the shadow and making it explosive.
Course Bonus
Kill The Nice Guy Meditation
Start your day on fire with your head, heart and balls all connected.
Course Bonus
Kill The Friend Zone
Class
Learn how to stay out of the dreaded Friend Zone forever!
This course is perfect if you want to:
- Be the leader the world so desperately needs right now
- Create healthy long lasting relationships that feed your soul
- Have mind-blowing sex without guilt or shame
- Own your masculinity and allow yourself the gift of brotherhood
- Be the man people look to in troubled times (FYI, we’re in REALLY troubled times right now)
- Be your kid’s hero and your partner’s inspiration
- Live an unapologetic life of passion and purpose.
THE OPPOSITE OF A NICE GUY IS A GOOD MAN. YOU GET TO BE ONE OR THE OTHER, AND BOTH ARE YOUR CHOICE.
My name is Traver Boehm.
I’m the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the UNcivilized Nation and the author of the book Man UNcivilized.
Want to know who else I am? I’m a recovering Nice Guy. Yep, I was as Nice as they come and paid the price for it for decades before hitting rock bottom after LOSING EVERYTHING. You don’t want to land where I landed and you don’t have to!
I created the UNcivilized Men’s Movement because I saw too many men, who were just like me, wandering around codependent and powerless rather than being the POWERFUL LEADERS their families and communities desperately need.
When you join The Kill The Nice Guy Self-Leadership Course, I guide you on a personal journey to BECOME THE MAN YOU WERE BORN TO BE. If you’re a man and you’re reading this, I WANT YOU IN THIS COURSE. The world needs you in here.
If you’re reading this and you know a man, SEND HIM HERE!
FAQ’s:
Is there a defined start and end to this?
Yes! We kick off on Feb 24th and finish on March 31st. We have live classes every Wednesday evening at 8 pm EST. All classes are recorded so it’s no issue if you miss one.
Why should I listen to you? What makes you an expert on Nice Guyness?
First of all — I was a Nice Guy. The NICEST. And looking back on my life it makes me want to puke. Remember “happy wife, happy life?” Oh yea, I lived by that maxim. Now I’m divorced, go figure.
Since then I’ve worked with hundreds of men who suffered from the exact thing I did — being codependent AF. It took me years of therapy, workshops, and more failed relationships before I turned the corner and started truly living my most authentic life. Now EVERYTHING is different.
When I wrote Man UNcivilized it was from the place where my Nice Guy was dead and buried, that’s why both the book and the Kill The Nice Guy chapter have inspired so many men, just like you to reach out to me.
Trust me, if I can do it, you can do it. Fuck that Nice Guy, he’s killing you so why not kill him back.
Why aren’t you offering this course for free?
You want to know when I would have done just that? When I was still a Nice Guy myself. I would have just asked you to tell me you liked me, that I’m OK, and then I would have given you access to years of my experience, coaching, and work in this area.
Now I have a fully formed self-esteem and know my worth. When you complete this course you will too.
Will I be required to participate in the conversations and exercises?
Only if you want the most benefit from the course. You can simply follow along and you’ll have your mind blown wide open, but, if you dive in fully and take a risk on yourself, you’ll walk away with a lot of experience doing the exact thing the Nice Guy fears most — being authentically you.
What’s the biggest change I can expect from doing this course?
YOU WILL FINALLY OWN YOUR OWN LIFE. You will have relationships where your needs and desires are accepted and honored. You will no longer have to change your behavior to fit everyone around you.
Do you know what this all sounds a lot like? FREEDOM.
FAQ’s:
Is there a defined start and end to this?
No! Unlike the live courses which I only offer twice a year, you can start your path to freedom and power immediately. You’ll be sent your first video as soon as you join.
Why should I listen to you? What makes you an expert on Nice Guyness?
First of all — I was a Nice Guy. The NICEST. And looking back on my life it makes me want to puke. Remember “happy wife, happy life?” Oh yea, I lived by that maxim. Now I’m divorced, go figure.
Since then I’ve worked with hundreds of men who suffered from the exact thing I did — being codependent AF. It took me years of therapy, workshops, and more failed relationships before I turned the corner and started truly living my most authentic life. Now EVERYTHING is different.
When I wrote Man UNcivilized it was from the place where my Nice Guy was dead and buried, that’s why both the book and the Kill The Nice Guy chapter have inspired so many men, just like you.
Trust me, if I can do it, you can do it. Fuck that Nice Guy, he’s killing you so why not kill him back.
Why aren’t you offering this course for free?
You want to know when I would have done just that? When I was still a Nice Guy myself. I would have just asked you to tell me you liked me, that I’m OK, and then I would have given you access to years of my experience, coaching, and work in this area.
Now I have a fully formed self-esteem and know my worth. When you complete this course you will too.
Will I be required to participate in the conversations and exercises?
Only if you want the most benefit from the course. You can simply follow along and you’ll have your mind blown wide open, but, if you dive in fully and take a risk on yourself, you’ll walk away with a lot of experience doing the exact thing the Nice Guy fears most — being authentically you.
What’s the biggest change I can expect from doing this course?
YOU WILL FINALLY OWN YOUR OWN LIFE. You will have relationships where your needs and desires are accepted and honored. You will no longer have to change your behavior to fit everyone around you.
Do you know what this all sounds a lot like? FREEDOM.
Testimonials
Here’s what my clients told me about taking this course:
Kill The Nice Guy is the single most important course you can take for your growth.
Everyone talks a big game on being badass, yet often refuses to take a step back and be honest about their feelings. When’s the last time you’ve purposely been uncomfortable? This will make you uncomfortable and search with a burning desire to figure out what man you want to become and how to build it.
—Mitchell Wasserman
This course addresses head-on the cult of codependency so many men are under the spell of. Codependency is the hidden belief that I can only be okay if you’re okay. For me Killing the Nice Guy touched on the taboo of putting myself first and directly addressed the shadows of my own passivity & sedation as a modern man.
Traver helped me pick up my sword in a compassionate and empowering way. This course carves a path boldly & skillfully through the trouble of people-pleasing and provides a map to end the trouble for good. I love that it’s called ‘Killing’ because it awakens the gravity of that primal masculine power to protect in a no-bullshit way. It’s at once an embodied & archetypal reclamation of your warrior & your inner king.
This course will walk you through a personal transformation into your core purpose as a man. Traver is a trust-worthy guide and man of deep integrity who knows the path well.
—Gabriel Keczan
When I took the Kill The Nice Guy course last spring, it was during a tough time. My wife and I had separated and I was trying to understand why.
Traver’s course helped me see my codependent tendencies and covert contracts were creating a lot of unhealthy communication. It opened my eyes to how numb I had become and gave me a glimpse at the purpose I was intended to take up. Thanks for your course!
—Jesse Thomaselli