The UNcivilized Bedroom Workshop
May 23rd, 6pm–9pm —  Boulder, Colorado.

This is a small gathering that will take place at Traver’s house. Limited to 12 participants.
“Sex is vulnerability in the truest sense. We must disrobe and reveal ourselves — not just physically, but entirely.”
Most men never get close to what’s actually possible in the bedroom. Not because they lack desire. Because no one ever told them the truth about what sex is — what it can heal, what it can unlock, and the kind of man it actually requires you to become.Â
This class is that truth. Raw, direct, and grounded in years of personal experience, deep study, and work with thousands of men.
SECTION ONE
The Potential
Heal. Awaken. Expand.
Unlock the transformative power of sex.
Have you ever imagined your sex life could be a source of healing? A source of inspiration? Or a source of empowerment outside the bedroom?
For most men, sex is physical. It goes no further than friction and release. That’s not a failure of desire. It’s a failure of information.
Here’s what they don’t teach you: sex is your deepest form of expression. It’s the place most heavily shamed, most deeply suppressed, and most urgently alive in you. When you unlock it — really unlock it — everything changes.
The potential of integrated sexuality is not about performance or technique. It’s about what becomes available when two people stop performing and start actually meeting each other. When shame is replaced by presence. When desire is finally spoken.
In this section, we explore what’s actually on the other side of the sex you’ve been settling for — the healing it offers, the mental and emotional weight it can lift, and the growth that becomes possible when you approach the bedroom as the most intimate arena of your development.
We’ll cover:
- Sex as a vehicle for healing past wounds — yours and hers
- How your sexual energy affects every other domain of your life
- The link between sexual shame and unexpressed potential
- What becomes possible when desire is finally integrated, not suppressed
- The connection between sexual power and purpose-driven living
SECTION TWO
The Foundation
Trust. Integrity. Presence.
Build the bedrock of authentic intimacy.
The bedroom starts with your relationship to you, your relationship to your word, and your relationship to your heart.
If you want to be a god in the bedroom, the path doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts in how you move through the world. In your integrity. In your willingness to look at yourself honestly — your wounds, your shame, your unexpressed desires — and choose differently.
Safety is not a soft concept. It is the ground on which everything extraordinary is built. A woman who trusts you completely — who has experienced your consistency, your steadiness, your willingness to hold space no matter what arises — will open to you in ways no technique or performance will ever produce.
This section is about building that foundation. Not because it’s the “responsible” thing to do. Because it’s the only thing that actually works.
“Imagine being someone who has demonstrated so much trust, integrity, and space-holding ability that your partner is willing to completely surrender sexually and explore every aspect of herself.
Sacred sexuality isn’t a philosophy. It’s a practice. It requires that you show up — before, during, and after — as the man who can be fully trusted with another person’s most vulnerable self. Consent isn’t a checkbox. It’s an ongoing conversation, a living container, built from respect and held with care.
We’ll cover:
- The consent conversation — how to have it, and why it changes everything
- Trust as the foundation of erotic depth
- How your personal integrity shows up in the bedroom
- Aftercare — the most underrated skill in sex
- What it means to hold sacred space for another human’s full expression
SECTION THREE
The Experience
Power. Depth. Connection.
Explore the depths of dominance and surrender.
Everything is about sex. And sex is about power. Power of connection.
Once the foundation is built — once trust is real, consent is a living practice, and you’ve done enough of your own work to be present — what’s left is the experience itself. And this is where it gets interesting.
Power dynamics, when they emerge from integrity and mutual desire, are one of the most profound vehicles for human connection available to us. They are not about domination for its own sake. They are about two people choosing to move into a space of total trust — where one holds and one surrenders, and both are changed by the exchange.
Living out both partners’ fantasies is not indulgent. It is the work. It requires you to ask. To listen. To communicate your own desires without shame and without wavering. To step into a level of sexual leadership that most men have been conditioned to believe they’re not allowed to occupy.
“When a woman opens her heart and legs and welcomes you in, she is providing you with a portal to the divine.”
This section is the lived application. Kink, BDSM, dominance, surrender — explored from the perspective of men who have done the inner work and are ready to bring all of it into the room. Not performance. Not pornography. The real thing.

We’ll cover:
- Power dynamics — why they exist and how to create them safely
- How to lead an erotic experience with full presence
- Exploring kink as a pathway to depth — not just intensity
- Speaking your desires without shame or hesitation
- Creating space for your partner’s unexpressed sexual self to emerge
- How you fuck your partner is how you move through the world
This is the conversation most men never get to have.
